I had to share the latest book I read, “How to Let Things Go, 99 Tips…” by Shunmyo Mansuno. Simple and valuable nuggets I found helpful to get us through challenging and good times.
Character
The way you handle difficult people show a great deal about your character and value system. Do you let the little things get to you or worry a lot? If you tend to focus on what “can go wrong,” vs. allowing life to happen, listen up. Mansuno, who is also a Buddhist Monk, provides reminders on “…relinquishing anxiety, impatience, and anger.”
You are in control of your own emotions and the reaction to personal situations, nothing else. If worry about every scenario that “could happen,” you’re wasting valuable energy.
Let life happen, but be smart about it. Suggestions include, “moderating your expectations.” Not everything will go your way in life. So be humble, and let me say that again, just be humble.
Social Media
What you see on social media is the 2%-5% of the “great” that is happening in people’s lives. The author suggests that people knowing about 50% (or even 30%) is a healthy way to live. Keep your life private for peace of mind.
We don’t need to know everything, and it keeps the pressure off of you to be “picture perfect.” Everyone has something they are dealing with, that we don’t know about it. And that’s just fine, and it’s a healthy way to go through life.
Accountability
Finally, do what you’ll say you are going to do. “Don’t push things off until tomorrow,” we’re reminded. You can tell a person’s true intentions by what “they do” not what they say. So just do it, and live your life with integrity and accountability.
That also goes for taking responsibility when things don’t work out, or you make a mistake. We learn more from our mistakes than we do from our successes, always.
And surrounding yourself with people that lift you up and support you will help you all through life. As the authors reminds us, “Be wary of negative people.” Positivity and kindness will be habits for life to help during the bad times and nurture you in good times.
So, what is your “go to” to help others navigate this changing world?
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