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Expectations for 2025

Setting Expectations for 2025

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With 2025 and a new year in front of us, we tend to reflect on past achievements, setbacks, and experiences. The transition from one year to the next presents a unique opportunity to redefine priorities and set clear expectations for the year ahead. In 2025, establishing personal and professional goals with concrete expectations can have a profound impact on success, motivation, and overall well-being.

Creating Clarity and Direction

Setting expectations provides a sense of clarity. Without a clear sense of where we want to go, it’s easy to become distracted or overwhelmed by the demands of daily life. In a fast-paced world where new opportunities and challenges arise constantly, defining what you expect from yourself and the year ahead helps to maintain focus. This clarity allows you to direct your energy toward meaningful endeavors rather than being swayed by distractions.

Accountability

When you set expectations for the year, you also build in a system of accountability. Expectations function as a form of self-contract, a commitment you make to yourself about what you aim to achieve. Whether your goals are related to career advancement, personal growth, or wellness, establishing these goals helps keep you accountable. Regularly checking in with these expectations can also serve as a powerful motivator, prompting you to reassess and adjust. Whether it’s a financial goal or career-focused achievement, keep re-assessing your progress.

Managing Stress and Burnout

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In a world that often prioritizes constant productivity, it’s easy to push yourself to extremes. However, unrealistic expectations can lead to stress and burnout. Setting balanced expectations that account for both ambition and personal well-being is crucial. For 2025, it’s important to not only set high aspirations but also to be mindful of your limits. This balanced approach helps maintain both mental and physical health, allowing you to avoid burnout and approach your goals sustainably.

Enhancing Personal Growth

Setting expectations is also a pathway to personal development. By clearly defining what you want to achieve, you give yourself the chance to grow in specific areas. Whether it’s developing a new skill, improving relationships, or achieving financial goals, having expectations pushes you out of your comfort zone. Growth doesn’t happen by accident — it’s the result of intentional effort and persistence. Both of these are supported by your well-defined expectations.

2025 offers a fresh start, and setting expectations is a powerful way to ensure that the year is filled with purpose, direction, and growth. By taking the time to reflect on your goals, you can create a roadmap for success that keeps you accountable and balanced throughout the year.

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Career Transitions

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Transitioning in your career can be both exciting and scary. Whether you’re seeking new challenges, better opportunities, or pursuing a passion, shifting careers requires thoughtful planning and strategic actions. From gaining the necessary education to building a strong network, here’s how to successfully navigate a career change.

Education and Skill Development

Education is often the first step in a career transition, especially if you’re moving into a completely new field. Start by assessing the skills you already have and identifying the gaps you need to fill. Research the skills required for your desired career and consider enrolling in relevant courses, certifications, or even degree programs. Online learning platforms offer flexibility, allowing you to upskill while maintaining your current job.

In some cases, you might not need formal education but rather specialized training or workshops that offer practical, hands-on experience. Look for opportunities to gain experience through internships, volunteering, or part-time work in your new field. This not only enhances your resume but also gives you a taste of what the job entails, helping you determine if it’s the right fit.

 Networking

Networking is crucial when transitioning careers. Building relationships with professionals in your target industry can open doors to opportunities that aren’t advertised. Start by attending industry events, seminars, and webinars where you can meet and learn from others in the field. LinkedIn is also a powerful tool for networking. You need to connect with individuals in your desired industry, join relevant groups, and participate in discussions to establish yourself. It’s scary at first, but take it from me you meet so many good people via LinkedIn.

Informational interviews are another valuable resource. Reach out to professionals in your target industry to learn more about their career paths, challenges, and the skills required. These conversations can provide insights and guidance that are invaluable during a career transition.

Embracing a Total Career Change

A complete career change can be intimidating, but with careful planning, it’s achievable. Start by doing a self-assessment to understand your motivations for the change. Identify what you’re passionate about, what skills you excel in, and how these can be applied to a new field. This self-awareness is crucial in making informed decisions about your next steps.

Once you’ve identified your new career path, begin laying the groundwork. Update your resume to highlight transferable skills and any relevant experience. Consider creating a portfolio that showcases your work, particularly if you’re moving into a creative or technical field. Tailor your cover letters and applications to reflect your enthusiasm for the new field and your readiness to contribute.

Taking the Leap

Finally, transitioning in your career requires courage and resilience. It’s important to set realistic expectations and be prepared for challenges along the way. Consider taking small steps towards your goal, such as starting in a related role before fully transitioning, to ease the process.

Remember, career transitions are a journey. By investing in education, expanding your network, and embracing change, you can successfully navigate the path to a new career. Keep an open mind, stay patient, and trust in your ability to adapt and grow.  You’ve got this!

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It’s Not You

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After reading Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s new book, “It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People,” I had to share. This book is life affirming if you need to understand why “bad things” happen to you and motivators of narcissists. Dr. Durvasula also provides extensive strategies for healing and dealing with these highly manipulative and vengeful people.

Who Are They? 

We don’t know why people act the way they do to hurt others. It’s a diagnosed personality disorder that is finally getting the attention it needs. The definition of a narcissistic goes beyond just wanting their way all the time or being powerful.  It’s about people you have in your life, that abuse and shift blame by gaslighting, manipulating, and lying without remorse.

“Nothing is ever their responsibility or their fault because for a narcissistic person to take responsibility or accept blame means having to accept that they are accountable and imperfect.”

There are varying levels of abusive behaviors outlined, some classified as “malignant narcissists.”

They malign people publicly, or harm their reputations. They are highly manipulative, transactional, and judge everyone based on how useful they are – whether for power, profits, pleasure, or validation. In the simplest framing, the malignant narcissist is a bully, mean and menacing…”

You will recognize the examples used in your own family or workplace relationships. You will also understand how often these behaviors happen and go unchecked in society. The focus is never really on the narcissistic, but more on the actions of the victims being abused.  Almost as if the victim has something wrong with them, despite the facts not adding up from narcissist’s manipulated account.

How Does It Happen?

If you are in an abusive relationship, the obvious answer is to leave. But it’s not always that simple. Dr. Durvasula provides examples where it’s just not possible to leave a job, marriage or other important relationship despite abuse. The victim talks themselves out of it, thinks THEY are the reason that these “bad things” are happening.

Victims routinely believe the manufactured and false narratives about what is taking place due to other silent and compliant people.  It boils down to trust. When those closest to you break that trust and know what’s really going on but do nothing, that’s your truth.

“In other words, narcissistic people make you feel small so they can feel safe.” 

These narcissists get something from their victims while “love bombing,” charming them, and prioritizing the relationship.  When the victim realizes what is actually going on and sets boundaries and reveals the truth, all hell breaks loose.  

“Hell, really hath no fury like a narcissist scorned. Their vindictive behavior may range from spreading damaging workplace gossip” to other more harmful and life threating outcomes.

Be warned, that stalking and public humiliation of their victims is quite commonplace for these individuals. Their tactics escalate when their victims pull away or start understanding the truth about past events. 

How to Protect Yourself 

There are many strategies discussed in the book to combat DARVO, or the common methods narcissists use.  (That’s a very useful chapter.) You should also try to distance yourself spiritually or physically from your abuser(s.) If you must stay in a relationship for work or family reasons, sound strategies are provided. These will help you heal and learn to deal with these negative people. As the author states, you will be better informed the next time you come across these individuals. And you most definitely will!

The healing that takes place when you know you’re not the crazy one is incredible. Narcissist behaviors happen daily to so many of us, but now you have a voice…an authentic voice.

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Starting A New Job

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Starting a new job is an exciting yet crucial phase in your career journey, and establishing effective communication with your new boss is essential. Engaging in open and strategic discussions early on can set the tone for a successful and productive working relationship. Here are the top four topics to discuss with your new boss as you embark on this professional adventure.

Expectations and Goals

Start a conversation with your new boss about expectations and goals. Gain clarity on what they see for your role and how success will be measured. This discussion allows you to support your work objectives with those of the team and the entire organization.

Understanding your manager’s expectations provides valuable insights into priorities, preferred work styles, and the overall mission of the organization. It’s an opportunity to express your enthusiasm for contributing to the team overall success. You also can seek direction on how you can excel in your new role.

Communication Styles

Effective communication is the cornerstone of a positive working relationship. Take the time to discuss communication preferences with your new boss. Inquire about preferred channels of communication.  Do they prefer email, regular check-in meetings, or a project management platform for updates? Clarify expectations regarding your progress, reporting structures, and how feedback will be delivered.

Establishing clear communication guidelines helps create a pleasant working environment. It also ensures you and your manager are on the same page regarding information flow.

Professional Development Opportunities

Express your commitment to professional growth by discussing potential opportunities for development. Inquire about training programs, mentorship possibilities, or skill-building initiatives within the company. Understanding the organization’s investment in employee development demonstrates your eagerness to contribute in the long term.

It’s also an excellent opportunity to discuss your career goals and how the company can support your ambitions. This conversation showcases your dedication to personal growth and also sets the stage for a collaborative approach to career advancement.

Establishing a Feedback Loop

Consider adding a fourth topic to your discussions: the establishment of a feedback loop. Express your openness to receiving constructive feedback and inquire about your supervisor’s preferred method for providing input. A proactive approach to feedback fosters a culture of continuous improvement and demonstrates your commitment to personal and team successes.

The initial conversations with your new boss lay the foundation for a positive and productive working relationship. Discussing expectations, communication preferences, and professional development opportunities allows for alignment and mutual understanding.

Additionally, establishing a feedback loop sets the stage for ongoing improvement and collaboration. By addressing these essential topics, you set the foundation for a successful and fulfilling career.

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Back to School

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As summer draws to a close, the familiar routine of back to school calls. Whether you’re returning to elementary, high school, or college, being fully prepared is important for a successful year. But what does it mean to be prepared? It’s not just about having the right tablet or laptop; it’s also about being mentally, physically, and emotionally ready.

Mentally Prepared

Being mentally prepared is like training before a race—it’s the foundation upon which all other preparations rest. Mental readiness means a positive attitude, clear goals, and effective time management skills. When you approach the school year with a growth mindset, you’re better equipped to handle demands, setbacks, and deadlines.

Cultivating resilience and adaptability allows you to navigate any obstacles that may arise, turning them into opportunities for growth.

Physical Preparedness

Just as a well-tuned engine powers a car, physical preparedness fuels your body and mind for the educational journey ahead. This includes getting enough sleep, maintaining a balanced diet, and staying physically active. Adequate sleep is vital, as it enhances cognitive function, your memory, and mood regulation.

These are essential for effective learning. Similarly, nourishing your body with nutritious foods and staying hydrated provide the energy needed to excel in the classroom. Regular exercise not only boosts physical health but also improves mental clarity and reduces stress. This is setting the stage for your academic success.

Emotional Support

Emotional preparedness involves resilience and building a support network to weather the highs and lows of the school year. Acknowledge and validate your feelings, whether they’re excitement, anxiety, or uncertainty. Seek out supportive friends, family members, or mentors who can offer guidance and encouragement.

Developing healthy coping skills, such as mindfulness or journaling, can also help manage stress and promote emotional well-being. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help when you need it, and taking care of your mental health is just as important as your academic achievements.

Start the new school year off right by keeping your mind and body in tip top shape this year.

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Cruising 2024

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Are you dreaming of setting sail on a summer cruise without breaking the bank? Fear not—there are plenty of ways to find budget-friendly cruises. Here are some tried-and-true methods to help you find cruises this summer that won’t break your budget.

Plan Ahead

First, plan ahead and book early. Cruise lines often offer early booking discounts and special promotions for travelers who reserve their cabins in advance. By planning ahead and securing your cruise package early, you can lock in lower prices. You can also take advantage of early bird perks such as onboard credits, free upgrades, and discounted airfare.

Be Flexible

Be flexible with your travel dates and destinations. If you’re willing to be flexible with your schedule and open to exploring different cruises, you’ll have a better chance of finding options. Consider traveling during shoulder seasons or off-peak times when demand is lower.

This is the period cruise prices are more competitive. Additionally, be open to alternative embarkation ports and lesser-known cruise destinations. These may offer more affordable options compared to popular tourist hotspots on everyone’s list.

Promotions

Next, keep an eye out for last-minute deals and promotions. Cruise lines often offer significant discounts on unsold cabins in the weeks leading up to departure. Keep tabs on cruise line websites, travel booking platforms, and vacation sites. These provide last-minute deals and flash sales to fill up the ship. Signing up for email alerts and newsletters from cruise lines can also keep you updated on promotions and special offers.

Travel Agents/Cruise Specialists

Consider booking through a travel agent or cruise specialist. Yes, travel agents still exist and often have access to exclusive deals, group discounts, and special perks.  Additionally, they can provide expert advice and personalized recommendations to help you find the best cruise options within your budget. Check out YouTube for passenger recommendations on different cruise lines, and then use a cruise specialist to book with perks.

Another money-saving tip is to be strategic with onboard expenses. While the upfront cost of the cruise may be budget-friendly, onboard expenses such as drinks, dining, and excursions can quickly add up.

Look for cruise packages that include onboard credits, unlimited beverage packages, or discounted excursion bundles. These costs can add up, so save money on extras ahead of your cruise date. Some cruise lines will offer deeper discounts the closer your sailing date gets, so be aware and negotiate!

Finding inexpensive cruises this summer is possible with a little planning, flexibility, and resourcefulness. By booking early, staying flexible, and keeping an eye out for last-minute deals, you can get a bargain!  Pack your bags, grab your sunscreen, and get ready to embark on the summer cruise of your dreams—at a price you can afford!

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Arts and Culture

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In schools, arts and culture are like colorful sprinkles on a cupcake. They make everything more fun and exciting! But why are they so important? Let’s find out!

First off, arts and culture help us express ourselves. Just like how we use words to tell stories, we can use art to show our feelings and ideas. Whether it’s painting, drawing, singing, or dancing, there are lots of ways to let our creativity shine!

And, arts and culture teach us about different people and places around the world. Imagine taking a magical journey through time and space without leaving your classroom! Through art, music, and stories from different cultures, we can learn about traditions, history, and how people live in faraway lands.

The arts make learning more fun and memorable. Instead of just reading about historical events in a textbook, we can act them out in a play. By visually re-enforcing concepts, students show what they’ve learned. This makes learning feel like an adventure and helps with retention of information.

Additionally, arts and culture help us develop important skills. When we work on art projects or perform in a play, we learn to problem-solve, work together, and think creatively. These skills are super helpful not just in school, but also in life!

Furthermore, arts and culture bring joy and happiness to our school community. Picture a school concert where everyone is singing and clapping along, or an art show where we admire other’s masterpieces. These moments create special memories and bring us closer together as a community.

The arts can inspire us to dream big and follow our passions. Maybe after seeing a beautiful ballet performance, you decide you want to become a dancer. Or perhaps after reading an amazing book, you’re inspired to become a writer. The arts open doors to endless possibilities for students and adults alike.

Arts and culture are like the colorful threads that weave through the fabric of our school experience. They help us express ourselves, learn about the world, develop important skills, and create joyful memories. So, let’s celebrate and embrace the arts in our schools—they make our days brighter and our hearts fuller!

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Adding a Pet

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Adding a pet to your family is a decision that extends beyond the joy of having a furry friend. The benefits are multifaceted, contributing to the overall well-being and dynamics of your household. Here are the top three reasons why having a pet can be a transformative and rewarding experience for your family.

Unconditional Love and Companionship

One of the most profound reasons to welcome a pet into your family is the unconditional love they offer. Pets, whether dogs, cats, or smaller critters, form deep emotional bonds with their human family members. Their loyalty and affectionate nature create a unique connection that can be a source of comfort and support. The simple joy of coming home to a wagging tail or a purring cat creates a warm and loving atmosphere. Pets foster a sense of belonging and camaraderie within the family.

Promoting Physical and Mental Health

The presence of a pet in the family has been linked to various health benefits for both adults and children. Regular physical activity is a natural outcome of pet ownership, as daily walks and playtime become part of the routine. This contributes to improved cardiovascular health, reduced stress levels, and a more active lifestyle. Moreover, interacting with pets has been shown to lower blood pressure and release endorphins, promoting a positive mood. For children, growing up with pets can instill a sense of responsibility and compassion, enhancing their social and emotional development.

Strengthening Family Bonds and Responsibility

The shared responsibility of caring for a pet fosters teamwork within the family. From feeding and grooming to playtime, each family member plays a role in the well-being of the furry family member. This shared responsibility strengthens communication, cooperation, and a sense of unity. Children, in particular, learn valuable life skills such as empathy, patience, and commitment through their interactions with pets. The shared experiences of caring for a pet create traditions that contribute to a sense of family identity and connection.

Bonus Tip: Tailoring to Your Family’s Lifestyle

When choosing a pet, consider your family’s lifestyle, living space, and preferences. Different pets have varying needs and temperaments, so selecting one that aligns with your family’s dynamics ensures a harmonious and enjoyable relationship.

The decision to have a pet is not just about introducing a new member to the family; it’s about embracing a lifestyle that nurtures love, health, and unity. The unconditional companionship, health benefits, and strengthening of family bonds make having a pet a rewarding and enriching experience. Whether it’s a playful pup, a graceful feline, or a small, scaly friend, the presence of a pet can bring immeasurable joy and positive energy to your family’s daily life.

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Caring for Parents

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As our parents age, the question of when to transition them into assisted living becomes a delicate, personal decision. This choice is often intertwined with emotions, practical considerations, and the desire to ensure the well-being of aging parents. Here are three important factors to consider when caring for your parents and making this decision.

Assessing Health and Safety Needs

The primary concern in determining the need for assisted living is the health and safety of aging parents. Evaluate their ability to perform daily activities independently, such as bathing, dressing, and managing medications. If there are signs of declining health, increased frailty, or a higher risk of accidents, assisted living may provide the answer.

Look for indicators such as frequent falls, forgetfulness, or difficulties managing household tasks. Engage in open communication with healthcare professionals to gain insights into your parents’ current and potential future needs. Assessing their physical and mental well-being serves as a foundation for making an informed decision about the level of care.

Social and Emotional Well-being

Isolation and loneliness can significantly impact the overall well-being of seniors. I know first-hand, how a lonely parent’s health can decline rapidly. If your parents are experiencing a lack of social interaction, assisted living communities can offer a supportive environment for engagement. Consider the emotional aspects of their current living situation, and evaluate whether assisted living will be a more socially connected lifestyle.

Family dynamics also play a role in this decision. Assess the availability of family members to provide support.  Recognizing that the emotional well-being of both aging parents and their caregivers is important and impacts the entire family.

Financial Impact

The financial impact of assisted living is a huge consideration. Explore the costs associated with various assisted living options. You must factor in services, amenities, and potential future healthcare needs. Consult with financial advisors to understand the long-term implications and available resources.  You don’t realize how expensive adult care facilities are especially as the level of care rises through the years.

Additionally, assess the practicality of managing the current living situation. If the maintenance of a home becomes challenging, assisted living may offer a more practical solution. Balancing financial concerns with practical daily needs is essential for making a well-rounded decision.

Difficult Nature of the Decision

Deciding when to transition aging parents into assisted living is one of the most challenging decisions a family can face. It requires careful consideration of individual needs, family dynamics, and the emotional well-being of everyone involved. Recognize that this decision is deeply personal, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer.

Open communication, empathy, and involving your parents in the decision-making process can help navigate the difficulties.  This ensures that the chosen path supports their wishes and quality of life.

The decision to move aging parents into assisted living is complex and demands thoughtful consideration. By prioritizing health, social and emotional well-being, financial considerations, families can work together. As adult children, you must make choices that prioritize their support, recognizing that the well-being of both parents. It’s not easy, but it’s a fact of life as we all age.

 

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Downsizing

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Starting on the journey of downsizing your home is simple. It’s a thoughtful process of simplification, organization, and evaluation of your possessions. Whether motivated by a desire for a simpler lifestyle, financial considerations, or a change in priorities, downsizing can be a positive experience with planning and the right mindset.

Your Priorities

The first step in downsizing is determining your needs and priorities. What aspects of your current lifestyle are essential, and what can be discarded? Consider the function of your current space and identify elements that align with your lifestyle goals for the future. This reflective phase sets the foundation for a more intentional and streamlined living space.

Decluttering with Purpose

Downsizing involves decluttering, a process that goes beyond merely discarding items. It’s an intentional decision about keeping items that hold sentimental value or serve a practical purpose. Begin with one room at a time, categorizing items into keep, donate, sell, or discard. This step not only lightens the physical load but also contributes to a decluttered mental space.

Space Optimization

A smaller home translates into strategic space optimization. Invest in multi-functional furniture to maximize utility without sacrificing style. Consider creative storage solutions, such as under-bed storage, wall-mounted shelves, or furniture with hidden compartments. The goal is to create an environment where every inch serves a purpose, creating an efficient and organized living space.

Moving

When the decluttering process is underway, start planning the details of the move. Whether hiring professional movers or opting for a DIY approach, create a timeline that includes packing, transportation, and unpacking.

Label boxes clearly, emphasizing essential items for immediate use. Downsizing offers an opportunity to reassess furniture needs, potentially selling or donating pieces that won’t fit in the new space.

Positive Mindset

Downsizing is not merely a reduction in physical space but a conscious shift in mindset. Embrace the positives of a smaller home, focusing on the benefits of simplified living, reduced maintenance, and potentially lower expenses. Cultivate an optimistic outlook throughout the process, emphasizing the new opportunities and freedoms that downsizing can bring.

Settling into a Smaller Space

Once the move is complete, allow time for adjustment. Experiment with furniture arrangements and unpacking your essentials to find the most functional and visually pleasing setup. Embrace the sense of coziness and intimacy that often accompanies a smaller home, creating a space that feels welcoming.

Downsizing is a journey of intentional living. Each decision contributes to a more streamlined and fulfilling lifestyle. By assessing needs, decluttering with purpose, optimizing space, and maintaining a positive mindset you’re halfway there. The process becomes an opportunity for growth, simplicity, and a newfound appreciation for the essentials in life.

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