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Caring for Aging Parents

Bright Orange Marigolds in my garden.
Bright orange and red marigolds in the garden.

Caring for aging parents is a journey that many of us take on expectedly. As our loved ones enter the later stages of their lives our own lives change.  While it is an opportunity to give back and express our gratitude, it is not without its share of challenges. As I navigate through caregiving, I have come to realize the emotional toll it takes.  I also discovered the profound rewards that come with caring for aging parents.

Life Balance

One of the most significant challenges I encountered is balancing my life and responsibilities with the needs of my parents. The demands of work, raising a family, and managing personal affairs can sometimes clash. With the time and energy required to ensure the well-being of my parents it’s hard to think of yourself.

It often feels like a juggling act, constantly trying to find a delicate balance. The give and take of caregiving and maintaining “normalcy” in my own life is tough. It is a delicate dance of making sacrifices, setting boundaries, and seeking support. Whether that support is from other family members or external resources to share the load, every bit helps. Even the everyday joys can help you get through the day.

Emotional Challenges

Emotionally, caring for aging parents can be a rollercoaster ride. Witnessing the physical and mental decline of the ones who once cared for you can be heart-wrenching. It is a reminder of their mortality and our own vulnerability. Feelings of guilt, frustration, and helplessness may come up.

As you grapple with the reality of their changing needs and our own limitations, you get sad. Yet, in the midst of these challenging emotions, there is also an opportunity for profound growth, empathy, and connection. It is a time to cherish the precious moments, celebrate small victories, and deepen your bonds with them every day.

Healthcare Frustrations

Navigating the healthcare system and ensuring the best possible care for your parents is yet another hurdle. The maze of medical appointments, medications, and complex decisions can be overwhelming. Advocating for their needs, understanding medical jargon, and coordinating with various healthcare professionals can feel like a full-time job. It requires patience, perseverance, and the willingness to become an informed advocate for your loved ones.

However, being an active participant in their healthcare journey allows us to be their voice. You must ensure their needs are met and advocate for the quality of life they deserve.  Because no one else will.

Rewards

Witnessing the small victories, the moments of joy, and the strength and resilience of people is amazing. It is a testament to the human spirit and the power of love for family and friends. It’s very tough, but worth the rewards.

Caring for aging parents is a journey that tests our limits, challenges our emotions, and stretches our capacity for compassion. It is not an easy path. It is one filled with profound growth and moments of immeasurable grace. As I continue on this journey, I am reminded of this privilege of caring for them. It is a gift that I will cherish.

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Self Care During Stressful Times

Sunflower from my garden this spring.
A bright sunflower growing in my front yard garden.

In our fast-paced world, stress has become an unavoidable part of life. Whether due to work, personal relationships, or unexpected life changes, stressful situations can often feel overwhelming. While it’s impossible to avoid stress entirely, it is essential to manage it through relaxation and self-care. Prioritizing these practices during difficult times can significantly improve your physical health, mental clarity, and emotional well-being.

The Physical Impact of Stress

Stress has a tangible effect on the body. It can lead to various health issues such as headaches, muscle tension, digestive problems, and increased susceptibility to illness. Chronic stress can also raise the risk of more serious conditions like heart disease and high blood pressure. By incorporating regular relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing exercises, meditation, or yoga, you can help to lower your stress levels and protect your physical health.

Relaxation helps to trigger the body’s parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for the “rest and digest” response. This system helps reduce the effects of stress by slowing down your heart rate, lowering blood pressure, and promoting a feeling of calm. Taking even a few minutes each day to focus on relaxation can make a significant difference in how your body copes with stress.

Mental Clarity and Focus

Stress also clouds your mental clarity, making it difficult to think clearly or make decisions. When your mind is overwhelmed, tasks that would normally be simple can feel insurmountable. Relaxation helps clear mental clutter, allowing you to regain focus and approach challenges with a calmer, more rational mindset.

Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation or journaling, are effective tools for regaining mental clarity. These practices encourage you to stay present and focus on the moment, helping to alleviate the constant mental chatter that accompanies stress. A more relaxed mind is also more creative and better equipped to find solutions to the problems causing stress.

Emotional Well-Being

During stressful times, it’s easy to neglect self-care in favor of pushing through responsibilities. However, prioritizing your emotional health through self-care practices is essential. Self-care is not selfish; it’s a necessary part of managing stress and maintaining overall well-being.

Activities such as spending time outdoors, engaging in hobbies, or simply resting can provide emotional nourishment. It’s important to set aside time to do things that bring you joy and comfort. By doing so, you create moments of peace that can help balance the chaos around you.

Self-care also includes setting boundaries and learning to say no when necessary. Taking on too much can exacerbate stress, while healthy boundaries allow you to manage your responsibilities more effectively. By protecting your energy, you can avoid burnout and remain more resilient in the face of stress.

Relaxation and self-care are essential for managing stress. By prioritizing these practices, you can improve your physical health, enhance mental clarity, and nurture emotional well-being. In times of stress, giving yourself permission to rest and recharge is not just helpful, but necessary for long-term health and balance.

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Relationships

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As we age, the significance of relationships becomes increasingly apparent. While youth often comes with an abundance of social interactions and casual connections, getting older tends to bring a deeper appreciation for meaningful relationships.

These connections, whether with family, friends, or partners, play an essential role in maintaining emotional, mental, and even physical well-being.

Emotional Support and Resilience

One of the greatest benefits of maintaining relationships as you get older is the emotional support they provide. Life presents ongoing challenges—health issues, loss, and major life transitions can become more frequent.

Having a solid network of friends or loved ones to lean on during these times provides much-needed comfort and resilience. Emotional support helps alleviate feelings of loneliness and isolation, which can significantly impact mental health. A strong support system fosters a sense of belonging and helps you navigate difficult moments with greater ease.

Mental and Cognitive Health

Relationships also contribute to mental sharpness and cognitive health. As we age, staying socially active can reduce the risk of cognitive decline. Regular interactions with friends and loved ones keep the mind engaged, offering stimulating conversations, new perspectives, and challenges.

Whether it’s catching up over coffee, playing a game, or discussing a book, social engagements help maintain brain health and prevent feelings of stagnation or boredom.

 Physical Health and Longevity

There is growing evidence that strong relationships are linked to better physical health. Studies have shown that individuals with close connections tend to live longer and experience better health outcomes than those who are isolated. Companionship encourages healthier behaviors, such as exercising, eating well, and attending medical checkups.

Friends and family members often provide gentle reminders to take care of ourselves, whether it’s a daily walk or a visit to the doctor.

The Value of Making New Connections

While maintaining existing relationships is crucial, making new connections as you get older is equally important. Life changes—such as retirement, moving, or the loss of loved ones—can reduce your social circle. Seeking new friendships or rekindling old ones can reinvigorate your social life. Joining clubs, engaging in community activities, or pursuing hobbies can introduce you to new people with shared interests.

As you age, relationships become one of the most important pillars of a happy, healthy life. Maintaining connections with friends and loved ones provides emotional support, improves cognitive function, and enhances overall well-being.

Whether nurturing existing bonds or building new ones, staying socially connected is key to thriving in later life.

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Exploring Chicago

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The window seat is the best view on vacation.

Chicago comes alive in spring, offering plenty of activities and attractions for visitors to explore. The city’s parks, architecture, and vibrant neighborhoods make it a must-visit travel destination. I’ve visited Chicago for work and pleasure many times, and these are my top sites to see.

Millennium Park and Cloud Gate

Millennium Park is a top destination in Chicago. It’s home to the famous Cloud Gate, also called “The Bean.” This reflective sculpture draws crowds, perfect for photos and relaxing nearby. In spring, the park’s greenery and flowers bloom, creating a beautiful setting for outdoor walks. The flowers are truly amazing for any photographer!

The Art Institute of Chicago

The Art Institute of Chicago is one of the best art museums in the world. Its impressive collection includes famous works by Monet, Van Gogh, and Picasso. Spring is a great time to visit, with special exhibitions often hosted during this season. Art students can be seen during the school year sketching and enjoying the works.

Stroll Along the Chicago Riverwalk

The Chicago Riverwalk offers a scenic place to enjoy the city’s stunning architecture. Springtime brings comfortable temperatures for walking along the river. Cafés and restaurants along the Riverwalk open up in the spring, making it a great spot for lunch. Don’t forget the rooftop restaurants that offer a magnificent view of the city as well.

Chicago Architecture Tour

Spring is the perfect time for a Chicago architecture boat tour. This popular attraction provides a unique perspective of the city’s skyscrapers. The guided tours offer fascinating details about Chicago’s architectural history while you cruise along the Chicago River. I’ve taken this tour and walked away with a new appreciation of the city’s buildings and history.

Navy Pier and Lakefront Views

Navy Pier is a lively destination with attractions, shops, and restaurants. In spring, the pier becomes especially vibrant with seasonal events and outdoor entertainment. Enjoy stunning views of Lake Michigan from the pier’s Ferris wheel or simply stroll along its promenade.

Lincoln Park Zoo

Lincoln Park Zoo, one of the oldest zoos in the U.S., and is free to visit. Spring is an ideal time to explore its exhibits, with animals more active in mild weather. The surrounding park is also beautiful, with flowers blooming and fresh greenery.

Magnificent Mile Shopping

The Magnificent Mile is Chicago’s premier shopping district. Springtime brings great window displays and outdoor events to this iconic area. You’ll find everything from luxury brands to unique local shops.  Just window shopping is a treat down this iconic Chicago street.

Chicago offers an exciting mix of culture, history, and entertainment. In spring, the city’s parks, attractions, and neighborhoods provide countless opportunities to explore. Whether admiring art, cruising the river, or enjoying the outdoors, Chicago is an unforgettable destination this season.  Book your trip and enjoy the weather and sites with your family.

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Relocating Out of State

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Have a plan and keep refining for success.

Relocating to another state can be an exciting yet challenging experience. The key to a successful move lies in careful planning and execution. Here are some essential steps to ensure a smooth interstate move.  From contacting movers to negotiating contracts, these tips will help you with the transition.

Research and Contact Reliable Movers

The first step is start researching moving companies as early as possible. Look for movers that specialize in interstate moves, as they’ll be more familiar with the logistics and regulations involved. Utilize online reviews, ask for recommendations from friends or family. Finally, be sure to verify the company’s credentials through the Federal Motor Carrier Safety Administration (FMCSA). Ensure the company is licensed, insured, and has a U.S. Department of Transportation (USDOT) number.

Once you’ve shortlisted a few companies, request in-home or virtual estimates. This will provide a more accurate quote based on the volume of items to be moved. Beware of companies that offer lowball estimates, as they might add hidden charges later.

Negotiate and Finalize the Contract

Before signing a contract, thoroughly review all the details. The contract should outline the total cost, services included, & delivery timeline. Most importantly, any additional fees such as packing materials or handling specialty items needs to be detailed in the contract.

Don’t hesitate to negotiate the price. Ask if there are any discounts available, such as for flexible moving dates, military service, or AAA membership.  Prices will go up, but won’t ever go down, so negotiate ahead of the move.

Pay close attention to the type of estimate provided—whether it’s binding, non-binding, or binding-not-to-exceed. A binding estimate guarantees the final cost won’t exceed the quoted amount, which can provide peace of mind.

Additionally, ask about the company’s claims process in case of damage or loss during the move. Understanding this beforehand will save you time and frustration if issues arise. Read the fine print and be prepared just in case something unexpected happens during the trip.

Plan for a Smooth Moving Day

In the weeks leading up to the move, create a detailed moving checklist. This should include tasks such as updating your address with the post office, transferring utilities, and securing important documents. Declutter your home by selling, donating, or discarding items you no longer need. This can also reduce your moving costs quite a bit.

On moving day, have a bag packed with essentials like toiletries, medications, important documents, and a change of clothes. This ensures you have everything you need during transit, while waiting for your belongings to arrive at your new home.

Stay Organized and Communicate

Maintain clear communication with your movers. Confirm details like the arrival time, delivery window, and any special instructions for your belongings. Keep a copy of the contract and inventory list handy in case of discrepancies.

Finally, just being patient and positive with the moving company will help your stress level. Unexpected events can happen out of the ordinary, like weather or traffic which affect the movers’ timeline.

Moving to another state is a significant life event, but with proper preparation, it can be a stress-free experience. By researching, creating a detailed plan, and staying organized, you can ensure your move goes smoothly. This will allow you to focus on settling into your new home.

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Springbreak 2025

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Pink Coneflowers love a warmer climate.

Spring break is here for 2025. It’s an ideal time for solo travelers to embark on an adventure tailored to their own pace and interests. Whether you’re looking to relax beachside, explore the great outdoors, or discover hidden gems, here are destinations for solo travel.

 Beaches

For solo travelers seeking sun and sand, the U.S. boasts some incredible beach destinations. Sanibel Island, Florida is a perfect choice for those looking for a quieter, more relaxed vibe. Famous for its shell-covered beaches and stunning sunsets, Sanibel offers plenty of relaxation. You can explore the island by bike, visit the J.N. “Ding” Darling National Wildlife Refuge, or simply unwind.

Another great option is Carmel-by-the-Sea, California. This charming coastal town is known for its stunning beaches, art galleries, and quaint cottages. Stroll along the scenic 17-Mile Drive, visit the historic Carmel Mission, or enjoy some solitude on the beautiful Carmel Beach. It’s a perfect blend of natural beauty and small-town charm, ideal for a peaceful solo retreat. 

National Parks

Spring is a wonderful time to visit some of the United States’ most iconic national parks, especially before the summer crowds arrive.  Zion National Park in Utah is a top pick for solo travelers who love hiking and stunning landscapes. With trails ranging from easy walks to challenging climbs, Zion offers something for everyone. The Narrows and Angel’s Landing are two must-see hikes, providing breathtaking views and a true sense of adventure.

Great Smoky Mountains National Park, straddling the border between North Carolina and Tennessee, is another excellent destination. Spring brings blooming wildflowers and flowing waterfalls, making it a beautiful time to explore the park’s network of trails. The park’s peaceful atmosphere and wildlife provide a perfect backdrop for solo reflection and nature enjoyment. (Be sure to check road conditions with the recent fall storms that have left many communities isolated.)

Off the Beaten Track

If you’re looking to escape the crowds entirely, consider visiting some lesser-known destinations. Taos, New Mexico offers a unique blend of Native American culture, stunning desert landscapes, and rich artistic heritage. Explore Taos Pueblo, take a hot air balloon ride over Rio Grande Gorge, or visit the many art galleries. Taos’ tranquil environment makes it a perfect spot for solo travelers seeking solitude and inspiration.

Another hidden gem is Door County, Wisconsin. Located on a peninsula between Green Bay and Lake Michigan. Door County is known for its charming small towns, scenic coastal views, and outdoor activities. Explore the numerous lighthouses, hike in Peninsula State Park, or enjoy a peaceful kayak ride on the lake.

Whether you want a quiet beach, hiking through national parks, or discovering hidden treasures, the U.S. offers destinations perfect for solo spring breakers. These locations not only provide beauty and adventure but also the opportunity for personal growth, reflection, and the freedom to create your own unique travel experience.

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Valentine’s Day

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Gerbera Daisies naturally attract pollinators in your garden.

Valentine’s Day, often celebrated as a day of romantic love, has evolved into a broader celebration of friendship and kindness. While traditionally linked with couples, this day offers a chance to extend love and appreciation beyond romantic relationships.

It’s a chance to recognize and cherish the various forms of love that enrich our lives. Whether it’s the bond with family, the friendship of colleagues, or the support of close friends, celebrate this year!

Celebrating Love

Valentine’s Day is a perfect reminder that love is not limited to just one type of relationship. While celebrating couples is popular, the 14th can also be about expressing gratitude to those who are important to us. Family members, colleagues, schoolmates, and friends contribute to our happiness and well-being every day. Remember these folks in countless ways, since they also deserve recognition and your love.

Family is often our first experience of love, providing a foundation of support and care. This Valentine’s Day, consider showing appreciation to your parents, siblings, or even extended family members. A heartfelt note, a phone call, or a small gift can make them feel valued and loved.

Co-Workers and Schoolmates

We spend a lot of time with our cc-workers and classmates. These relationships play an important role in our daily lives. They support us in our work or studies, celebrate our successes, and help us through challenges. Valentine’s Day offers a unique opportunity to strengthen these bonds.

Consider organizing a small celebration at work or school, where everyone exchanges cards or small tokens of appreciation. This can foster a sense of community and remind everyone that they are valued.

Cherishing Friendship

Friendship is another powerful form of love that often gets overlooked on Valentine’s Day. Friends are the ones who stand by us through thick and thin, offering advice, laughter, and companionship.

Take time this Valentine’s Day to reach out to your close friends. Plan a get-together, send a thoughtful message, or even share a meal. These gestures can deepen your connections and remind your friends how much they mean to you.

Valentine’s Day is more than just a celebration of romantic love. It’s an opportunity to acknowledge all the important relationships in our lives. By extending our appreciation to family members, colleagues, schoolmates, and friends, we can spread positivity and strengthen the bonds that make life meaningful.

This Valentine’s Day, let’s embrace the full range of love and celebrate the people who make our lives richer.  Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Your Heart Health

As you age, maintaining a healthy heart becomes increasingly important. Cardiovascular health is crucial to overall well-being, as the heart plays a central role in sustaining life. Your heart delivers oxygen and nutrients to every part of the body.

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With age, your risk for heart disease and related conditions like high blood pressureand stroke increases. This makes it essential to adopt heart-healthy habits right now. Prioritizing heart care and overall health can lead to a longer, more vibrant life.

Heart Health

Heart disease is the leading cause of death globally. But it is largely preventable through lifestyle choices. As you age, your arteries may stiffen, and plaque can build up in them, increasing your risk for conditions like atherosclerosis, heart attacks, and strokes. By taking proactive steps to care for your heart, you can significantly lower your risk for these issues. You will also improve your overall quality of life.

Regular Exercise

One of the most effective ways to care for your heart as you age is to stay physically active. Regular exercise helps strengthen the heart muscle, improves circulation, and helps maintain a healthy weight. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise, such as brisk walking, five days a week.

Activities like swimming, cycling, and dancing are also excellent choices. Incorporating strength training exercises at least twice a week can help build muscle mass. This is important for maintaining metabolic health as you age.

Heart-Healthy Diet

Diet plays a significant role in heart health. A diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats can help protect the heart. This also reduces the risk of disease in your entire body. Foods like salmon, flaxseeds, nuts, and avocados are high in omega-3 fatty acids, which are beneficial for heart health.

Limiting processed foods, sodium, and added sugars can also help prevent high blood pressure and cholesterol levels.  These factors are common contributors to heart disease.

Managing Stress

Chronic stress is harmful to the heart, leading to high blood pressure and increased risk of heart disease. As you age, it becomes even more important to manage stress through relaxation techniques like deep breathing, meditation, and yoga. Engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved ones, and practicing mindfulness can help reduce stress. All these stress-reducers promote a healthier heart.

Regular Checkups

Regular medical checkups become increasingly important through the years. Monitoring your blood pressure, cholesterol levels, and blood sugar can help detect any early signs of heart issues. If needed, your doctor can recommend lifestyle changes or medications to help manage these risk factors.

Getting Enough Sleep

Sleep is vital to heart health. As you age, getting seven to eight hours of quality sleep each night becomes essential. Poor sleep can lead to heart-related issues, including high blood pressure and increased risk of heart attack.

Quality sleep is defined as no interruptions, like animals, snoring partners, or other factors waking you up at night.

Caring for your heart and staying healthy is a combination of regular exercise, a heart-healthy diet, stress management, and checkups. By making these lifestyle choices, you can reduce your risk of heart disease, enhance your quality of life, and enjoy a longer, healthier future. Prioritizing heart care is a gift to yourself that pays off with long-term health benefits.

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Portugal in 2025

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Portugal, a country rich in history, culture, and natural beauty, is one of Europe’s most popular travel destinations for 2025. From its stunning coastline to its vibrant cities, Portugal offers something for every traveler. Whether you’re drawn to historical sites, picturesque hiking trails, or world-class museums, Portugal has it all. Here’s a guide to the top tourist spots, hiking destinations, and museums to see while visiting this charming country.

Lisbon
No trip to Portugal is complete without a visit to Lisbon, the country’s vibrant capital. Lisbon’s charm lies in its mix of old-world charm and modern liveliness. Wander through the historic neighborhood of Alfama, where narrow streets, colorful buildings, and Fado music create an unforgettable atmosphere.

Don’t miss the Belém Tower and Jerónimos Monastery, both UNESCO World Heritage Sites. These showcase the grandeur of Portugal’s Age of Discovery. For stunning views of the city, take a ride on the Santa Justa Lift or head to one of Lisbon’s many “miradouros,” (Viewpoints for photos).

Porto
Porto, Portugal’s second-largest city, is famous for its wine and stunning architecture. The historic Ribeira district, with its cobbled streets and colorful houses, is a must-see. As a librarian, don’t miss the Livraria Lello, one of the most beautiful bookstores in the world. Tickets are well worth the history and tour.

Or visit the iconic Dom Luís I Bridge, for spectacular views of the Douro River. Of course, no visit to Porto is complete without a tour of the port wine cellars in Vila Nova de Gaia.  Here you can learn about and taste the city’s famous export – Cheers!

Sintra
Located just a short drive from Lisbon, Sintra is a fairy-tale town nestled in the hills of the Serra de Sintra. It’s home to some of Portugal’s most stunning palaces and gardens, including the colorful National Palace of Pena. This palace looks like something out of a storybook.

The Moorish Castle, with its breathtaking views, and the mysterious Quinta da Regaleira, with its gardens and tunnels, are must-visits. Sintra’s blend of natural beauty and architectural wonders makes it one of Portugal’s most magical destinations.

Hiking
Portugal’s diverse landscapes offer excellent hiking trails for nature lovers. The Rota Vicentina, located in the southwestern Alentejo and Algarve regions, is one of the most beautiful coastal trails in Europe.

The trail offers a mix of rugged cliffs, sandy beaches, and quaint fishing villages. The Fisherman’s Trail, in particular, is a favorite among hikers for its stunning ocean views and challenging terrain.

Peneda-Gerês National Park, Portugal’s only national park, is a paradise for hikers. Located in the northern part of the country, the park features lush forests, crystal-clear rivers, and ancient stone villages. Take your pick in any of Portugal’s many cities to enjoy nature and get your heart pumping.

Museums and Churches

Finally, Portugal’s many museums and ancient churches are a must see for your travel agenda. Carmo Archaeological Museum is situated in the ruins of the old Church of Santa Maria do Carm. This church was founded in 1389 by D. Nuno Alvares Pereira.

While in Lisbon don’t miss the most ornate church ever seen, Igreja de Sao Rogue. With its gilded interiors and opulent chapels, every turn is full of history and a great photo opportunity.

Whether you’re a nature lover or seasoned tourist, Portugal is a European location not to be missed this year.

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Let Things Go

"Be wary of Negative People..."

I had to share the latest book I read, “How to Let Things Go, 99 Tips…” by Shunmyo Mansuno. Simple and valuable nuggets I found helpful to get us through challenging and good times.

Character

The way you handle difficult people show a great deal about your character and value system. Do you let the little things get to you or worry a lot? If you tend to focus on what “can go wrong,” vs. allowing life to happen, listen up.  Mansuno, who is also a Buddhist Monk, provides reminders on “…relinquishing anxiety, impatience, and anger.”

You are in control of your own emotions and the reaction to personal situations, nothing else. If worry about every scenario that “could happen,” you’re wasting valuable energy.

Let life happen, but be smart about it. Suggestions include, “moderating your expectations.”  Not everything will go your way in life. So be humble, and let me say that again, just be humble.

Social Media

What you see on social media is the 2%-5% of the “great” that is happening in people’s lives. The author suggests that people knowing about 50% (or even 30%) is a healthy way to live.  Keep your life private for peace of mind.

We don’t need to know everything, and it keeps the pressure off of you to be “picture perfect.”  Everyone has something they are dealing with, that we don’t know about it.  And that’s just fine, and it’s a healthy way to go through life.

Accountability

Finally, do what you’ll say you are going to do.  “Don’t push things off until tomorrow,” we’re reminded.  You can tell a person’s true intentions by what “they do” not what they say. So just do it, and live your life with integrity and accountability.

That also goes for taking responsibility when things don’t work out, or you make a mistake. We learn more from our mistakes than we do from our successes, always.

And surrounding yourself with people that lift you up and support you will help you all through life.  As the authors reminds us, “Be wary of negative people.”  Positivity and kindness will be habits for life to help during the bad times and nurture you in good times.

So, what is your “go to” to help others navigate this changing world?

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