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Let Things Go

"Be wary of Negative People..."

I had to share the latest book I read, “How to Let Things Go, 99 Tips…” by Shunmyo Mansuno. Simple and valuable nuggets I found helpful to get us through challenging and good times.

Character

The way you handle difficult people show a great deal about your character and value system. Do you let the little things get to you or worry a lot? If you tend to focus on what “can go wrong,” vs. allowing life to happen, listen up.  Mansuno, who is also a Buddhist Monk, provides reminders on “…relinquishing anxiety, impatience, and anger.”

You are in control of your own emotions and the reaction to personal situations, nothing else. If worry about every scenario that “could happen,” you’re wasting valuable energy.

Let life happen, but be smart about it. Suggestions include, “moderating your expectations.”  Not everything will go your way in life. So be humble, and let me say that again, just be humble.

Social Media

What you see on social media is the 2%-5% of the “great” that is happening in people’s lives. The author suggests that people knowing about 50% (or even 30%) is a healthy way to live.  Keep your life private for peace of mind.

We don’t need to know everything, and it keeps the pressure off of you to be “picture perfect.”  Everyone has something they are dealing with, that we don’t know about it.  And that’s just fine, and it’s a healthy way to go through life.

Accountability

Finally, do what you’ll say you are going to do.  “Don’t push things off until tomorrow,” we’re reminded.  You can tell a person’s true intentions by what “they do” not what they say. So just do it, and live your life with integrity and accountability.

That also goes for taking responsibility when things don’t work out, or you make a mistake. We learn more from our mistakes than we do from our successes, always.

And surrounding yourself with people that lift you up and support you will help you all through life.  As the authors reminds us, “Be wary of negative people.”  Positivity and kindness will be habits for life to help during the bad times and nurture you in good times.

So, what is your “go to” to help others navigate this changing world?

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Selfcare for 2025

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A bright sunflower growing in my front yard garden.

As 2025 begins, it’s an ideal time for selfceare that will help you lead a healthier, more balanced life. Rather than making drastic changes that might be hard to sustain, focus on small habits that can make a big impact over time. Here are some tips to start the new year off right with a focus on health and personal growth.

Prioritize Your Health

Good health is the foundation for a successful year. Begin by evaluating your current habits and identifying areas for improvement. Simple changes like eating more fruits and vegetables, drinking more water, and getting enough sleep can improve your well-being. Regular exercise is also essential; it doesn’t have to be intense. Activities like walking, yoga, or swimming can help keep you active while also being enjoyable and stress-free.

Engage in Stress-Free Activities

Managing stress is key to maintaining both mental and physical health. Start by incorporating mindfulness practices into your daily routine. Meditation, deep breathing exercises, or simply taking a few minutes each day to focus on your breath. These simple habits can help reduce stressand promote a sense of calm.

Additionally, consider hobbies that bring you joy and relaxation. Whether it’s reading, painting, gardening, or playing an instrument, have some fun!  These activities provide a creative outlet and a break from the pressures of daily life. Spending time in nature is another great way to de-stress. Studies have shown that even a short walk in a park can reduce anxiety and boost your mood.

Focus on Personal Growth

The new year is a great time to set goals for personal development. Start by reflecting on the past year and identifying areas where you’d like to grow. This could be learning a new skill, improving your time management, or working on your emotional intelligence. Setting realistic, achievable goals is important; break them down into smaller steps to make them more manageable.

Reading is another powerful tool for personal growth. Choose books that inspire you, challenge your thinking, or teach you something new. Journaling is also a valuable practice.  Writing down your thoughts, goals, and reflections can help clarify your intentions and track your progress throughout the year.

Starting the new year off right doesn’t mean making drastic changes overnight. By focusing on your health, engaging in stress-free activities, and setting achievable goals for personal growth, you can create a foundation for a happier, healthier year ahead. Remember, progress is made through consistent, small steps, so be kind to yourself and enjoy the journey.

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Holiday Recipes

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Have a plan and keep refining for success.

Holiday recipes will not be the same as the “recipes” I shared for the Thanksgiving holiday. These recipes are how to celebrate the holidays to bring you joy this year and next. Here are a few ideas to make this holiday season shine!

Work Reflection

Reflecting on the past year during this time brings great comfort and clarification of the past 11 to 12 months.  What work goals did you achieve?  What new goals for your career will you begin?  Think about the changes in your job and home life you had this year; was it beneficial? Out of your control?  This is the time to set your path on what you’ll be focusing on for 2025 in your career.

Relationships

Relationships, like life, are always changing. What relationships would you like to nurture next year or pull away from?  As you grow, your relationships will change with you as your boundaries grow and are defined.

When I was a mom with your kids, my circle of friends were other moms from our play group. As my children grew, my friendships changed too. Work relationships and my friends from the gym become my focus, as my kids gained their own circle of friends. Getting out there making new friends feels good and is healthy.

Health

Health and wellness are always important, so a recipe for success always starts with your self-care first.  Look at your nutrition, physical exercise, and mindset to create a path to wellness. Stress can be the biggest obstacle to positive mental and physical fitness. Your mind can make or break you, so meditation and taking time for yourself is important for a healthy outlook. A 15- minute walk after dinner or before you set off for work in the morning helps clear your mind.

There is no tried and true path for a happy life, but there are “recipes” to help you learn, grow, and thrive every year. Taking this time during the holidays to re-evaluate habits in your life that need focus will help.  Life is about change, and I hope yours is positive and productive.

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Thanksgiving Recipes

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A bright sunflower growing in my front yard garden.

Thanksgiving is a time to come together as a family whether with loved ones or friends to celebrate. What better way to bring people together than a shared meal on a special day.  Here are some of my favorite recipes for a traditional Thanksgiving you might like to make and share.

GRANDMA THELMA’S CORNBREAD STUFFING

I like turkey, but I love the Grandma Thelma’s Southern Cornbread Stuffing.  This “dressing” goes along with my roasted wing and freezing very well too.

  • 1/2- pound butter – divided
  • 1 Tablespoon onion powder
  • 1 ½cups chopped celery
  • 9cups prepared day old cornbread (double this recipe or use 4 boxes of Jiffy Mix)
  • 4 slices of day-old bread, (OR bagels, buns, whatever you have on hand)
  • 1 Tablespoon poultry seasoning
  • 1 cup dried cranberries
  • 1 cup chopped pecans
  • 2eggs, beaten
  • 2cups chicken stock – divided
  1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C). Butter one 2- quart casserole dish.
  2. In a sauté pan, cook onion powder and celery in 4 Tablespoons of butter until soft and add 1 cup of stock. Simmer for 10 minutes.
  3. In a mixing bowl, combine cooled celery mixture, cornbread crumbled, and bread torn into bite size pieces, poultry seasoning, eggs, pecans, cranberries, and remaining cup of chicken stock. Mix well and add to buttered casserole dish. (Mixture will be “wet” when placed in dish to bake.)
  4. Dot top of stuffing mixture with remaining butter (about ¼ pound.)
  5. Bake for 1 hour at 325 degrees F or until internal temperature reaches 165 degrees F and edges are golden brown.

Serve with turkey, pork chops, or BBQ chicken! Freezes up to 2 months wrapped tightly in foil.

I feel every Thanksgiving needs carbs with turkey dinner. But some folks like other Thanksgiving traditions at their gathering. But one if for sure, pie is a universal dessert which makes everyone happy.

PIES

For your favorite dessert make a homemade pumpkin pie or even better a pumpkin cheesecake (for the calcium.)

KATHY’S PUMPKIN PIE

  • 1 (9 or 10 inch) unbaked deep-dish pie crust
  • 1cup white sugar
  • 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
  • ½ teaspoon salt
  • ¾ teaspoon ground ginger
  • ½ teaspoon ground cloves
  • 2 large eggs – beaten
  • 1 (15 ounce) can LIBBY’S® 100% Pure Pumpkin

Preheat the oven to 425 degrees F (220 degrees C).

  • Combine sugar, cinnamon, salt, ginger, and cloves in small bowl. Beat eggs lightly in large bowl. Stir in pumpkin and sugar-spice mixture. Gradually stir in evaporated milk. Pour into pie shell.
  • Bake in the preheated oven for 15 minutes. Reduce temperature to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) and continue to bake until a knife inserted near the center comes out clean, 40 to 55 more minutes. Remove from the oven and set on a wire rack to cool to room temperature.
  • Serve cooled pie immediately or refrigerate until ready to serve. (Do not freeze as this will cause the crust to separate from the filling.)

Wishing you all a very Happy Thanksgiving and restful holiday.  Bon Appetit!

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It’s Not You

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Wishing you calm and happiness this season

After reading Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s new book, “It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People,” I had to share. This book is life affirming if you need to understand why “bad things” happen to you and motivators of narcissists. Dr. Durvasula also provides extensive strategies for healing and dealing with these highly manipulative and vengeful people.

Who Are They? 

We don’t know why people act the way they do to hurt others. It’s a diagnosed personality disorder that is finally getting the attention it needs. The definition of a narcissistic goes beyond just wanting their way all the time or being powerful.  It’s about people you have in your life, that abuse and shift blame by gaslighting, manipulating, and lying without remorse.

“Nothing is ever their responsibility or their fault because for a narcissistic person to take responsibility or accept blame means having to accept that they are accountable and imperfect.”

There are varying levels of abusive behaviors outlined, some classified as “malignant narcissists.”

They malign people publicly, or harm their reputations. They are highly manipulative, transactional, and judge everyone based on how useful they are – whether for power, profits, pleasure, or validation. In the simplest framing, the malignant narcissist is a bully, mean and menacing…”

You will recognize the examples used in your own family or workplace relationships. You will also understand how often these behaviors happen and go unchecked in society. The focus is never really on the narcissistic, but more on the actions of the victims being abused.  Almost as if the victim has something wrong with them, despite the facts not adding up from narcissist’s manipulated account.

How Does It Happen?

If you are in an abusive relationship, the obvious answer is to leave. But it’s not always that simple. Dr. Durvasula provides examples where it’s just not possible to leave a job, marriage or other important relationship despite abuse. The victim talks themselves out of it, thinks THEY are the reason that these “bad things” are happening.

Victims routinely believe the manufactured and false narratives about what is taking place due to other silent and compliant people.  It boils down to trust. When those closest to you break that trust and know what’s really going on but do nothing, that’s your truth.

“In other words, narcissistic people make you feel small so they can feel safe.” 

These narcissists get something from their victims while “love bombing,” charming them, and prioritizing the relationship.  When the victim realizes what is actually going on and sets boundaries and reveals the truth, all hell breaks loose.  

“Hell, really hath no fury like a narcissist scorned. Their vindictive behavior may range from spreading damaging workplace gossip” to other more harmful and life threating outcomes.

Be warned, that stalking and public humiliation of their victims is quite commonplace for these individuals. Their tactics escalate when their victims pull away or start understanding the truth about past events. 

How to Protect Yourself 

There are many strategies discussed in the book to combat DARVO, or the common methods narcissists use.  (That’s a very useful chapter.) You should also try to distance yourself spiritually or physically from your abuser(s.) If you must stay in a relationship for work or family reasons, sound strategies are provided. These will help you heal and learn to deal with these negative people. As the author states, you will be better informed the next time you come across these individuals. And you most definitely will!

The healing that takes place when you know you’re not the crazy one is incredible. Narcissist behaviors happen daily to so many of us, but now you have a voice…an authentic voice.

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Back to School

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As summer draws to a close, the familiar routine of back to school calls. Whether you’re returning to elementary, high school, or college, being fully prepared is important for a successful year. But what does it mean to be prepared? It’s not just about having the right tablet or laptop; it’s also about being mentally, physically, and emotionally ready.

Mentally Prepared

Being mentally prepared is like training before a race—it’s the foundation upon which all other preparations rest. Mental readiness means a positive attitude, clear goals, and effective time management skills. When you approach the school year with a growth mindset, you’re better equipped to handle demands, setbacks, and deadlines.

Cultivating resilience and adaptability allows you to navigate any obstacles that may arise, turning them into opportunities for growth.

Physical Preparedness

Just as a well-tuned engine powers a car, physical preparedness fuels your body and mind for the educational journey ahead. This includes getting enough sleep, maintaining a balanced diet, and staying physically active. Adequate sleep is vital, as it enhances cognitive function, your memory, and mood regulation.

These are essential for effective learning. Similarly, nourishing your body with nutritious foods and staying hydrated provide the energy needed to excel in the classroom. Regular exercise not only boosts physical health but also improves mental clarity and reduces stress. This is setting the stage for your academic success.

Emotional Support

Emotional preparedness involves resilience and building a support network to weather the highs and lows of the school year. Acknowledge and validate your feelings, whether they’re excitement, anxiety, or uncertainty. Seek out supportive friends, family members, or mentors who can offer guidance and encouragement.

Developing healthy coping skills, such as mindfulness or journaling, can also help manage stress and promote emotional well-being. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help when you need it, and taking care of your mental health is just as important as your academic achievements.

Start the new school year off right by keeping your mind and body in tip top shape this year.

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Labor Day’s History

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Labor Day, celebrated on the first Monday of September, marks a key moment in American history. It’s not just the unofficial end of summer. This federal holiday honors the contributions of workers and the labor movement. This holiday symbolizing the economic and social achievements of American labor. The start of Labor Day can be traced to the 19th century, a time marked by industrialization and labor unrest.

Birth of Labor Day

The origins of Labor Day are rooted in the labor movement’s fight for fair working conditions during the late 1800s. During this time, workers faced grueling hours, unsafe working environments, and minimal pay. Labor unions began to form, supporting workers’ rights and organizing strikes and rallies to demand better conditions.

The first Labor Day parade took place on September 5, 1882, in New York City. Thousands of workers marched from City Hall to Union Square, carrying banners and flags to demonstrate solidarity. This event, seen as a great success, inspired unions across the country for a national holiday honoring all workers.

Federal Recognition
The push for a national holiday gained momentum, and states began to recognize Labor Day. Oregon was the first state to declare it an official holiday in 1887. Following Oregon’s lead, Colorado, Massachusetts, New Jersey, and New York also adopted the holiday.

The federal government officially recognized Labor Day in 1894, following a significant labor conflict known as the Pullman Strike. The strike involved workers from the Pullman Company, a railroad car manufacturer. The workers from this company protested wage cuts and high rents in company-owned housing.

The strike worsened, leading to nationwide railroad disruptions and violent clashes between workers and federal troops. In the aftermath, and as a peacemaking gesture toward the movement, President Cleveland signed legislation making Labor Day a holiday.

Modern Celebrations
Over time, Labor Day has evolved from its roots as a day of labor protest and activism to a broader celebration Today, it signifies the unofficial end of summer, marked by parades, barbecues, and family gatherings. However, its historical significance remains a reminder of the struggles and achievements of the American labor movement.

Labor Day also serves as a time to reflect on the ongoing challenges faced by workers. Issues such as fair wages, safe working conditions, and workers’ rights. Labor Day in the United States is a testament to the resilience and determination of the labor movement. From its origins in the late 19th century, it remains a powerful symbol of workers’ contributions to the nation’s progress.

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Disney Paris

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Nestled just outside the vibrant city of Paris, Disneyland Paris offers a magical escape for visitors of all ages. From enchanting fairy tale castles to thrilling roller coasters, the resort brings the beloved magic of Disney to life. With Paris as the backdrop of Europe’s most romantic city, this resort offers a most unique experience. Whether you’re a seasoned Disney fan or a first-time visitor, here’s everything you need to know about Disneyland Paris.

Two Disney Parks

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Disneyland Paris consists of two theme parks: Disneyland Park and Walt Disney Studios Park. Disneyland Park, the resort’s flagship park, is divided into five themed lands: Main Street, U.S.A., Fantasyland, Adventureland, Frontierland, and Discoveryland. Here, you can explore iconic attractions such as Sleeping Beauty Castle or ride on classics like Space Mountain: Mission 2. You can even meet favorite Disney characters throughout the park.

Walt Disney Studios Park offers a behind-the-scenes look at the magic of filmmaking with attractions inspired by Disney and Pixar. You can enjoy thrill-seeking rides like The Twilight Zone Tower of Terror and Remy’s Ratatouille Adventure. In addition, to live interactive shows for everyone to experience at this movie-themed park.

Parades, Fireworks, and Food

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Disneyland Paris has lots of entertainment options, including parades, fireworks shows, and live performances featuring your favorite Disney characters. Don’t miss the nighttime spectacular Disney Illuminations. This show lights up the sky with dazzling fireworks, projections, and special effects set to beloved Disney songs and stories. A show very familiar to Disneyland regulars!

The Paris park also offers a variety of dining options to satisfy every taste and budget. From quick-service eateries serving classic themed food to restaurants offering dining experiences, there’s no shortage of cuisine to enjoy resort-wide. Be sure to make reservations in advance for popular dining locations and character dining experiences to avoid long wait times.

Themed Hotels

Finally, Disneyland Paris features several themed resort hotels where you can stay and immerse yourself in the magic 24/7. From the luxurious Disneyland Hotel overlooking Sleeping Beauty Castle to the family-friendly Hotel Cheyenne, there’s accommodations to meet every budget. Plus, staying at a Disney hotel offers perks such as early access to the parks, complimentary transportation, and character meet-and-greets.

When exploring the theme parks, be sure to set aside time to explore the nearby city of Paris and its world-famous landmarks. Just a short train ride away, downtown Paris hosts iconic attractions such as the Eiffel Tower and the Louvre Museum. Take a leisurely stroll along the Seine River or savor delicious French food at sidewalk cafe. While in Paris, immerse yourself in the city’s rich history and culture.

Visiting Disneyland Paris is a magical adventure that promises fun, excitement, and unforgettable memories for the whole family. With its enchanting theme parks, world-class entertainment, and convenient location near Paris, the resort offers the perfect blend of Disney magic and European charm. So, pack your bags, bring your Mickey ears, and get ready to experience the magic of Disneyland Paris!

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Arts and Culture

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In schools, arts and culture are like colorful sprinkles on a cupcake. They make everything more fun and exciting! But why are they so important? Let’s find out!

First off, arts and culture help us express ourselves. Just like how we use words to tell stories, we can use art to show our feelings and ideas. Whether it’s painting, drawing, singing, or dancing, there are lots of ways to let our creativity shine!

And, arts and culture teach us about different people and places around the world. Imagine taking a magical journey through time and space without leaving your classroom! Through art, music, and stories from different cultures, we can learn about traditions, history, and how people live in faraway lands.

The arts make learning more fun and memorable. Instead of just reading about historical events in a textbook, we can act them out in a play. By visually re-enforcing concepts, students show what they’ve learned. This makes learning feel like an adventure and helps with retention of information.

Additionally, arts and culture help us develop important skills. When we work on art projects or perform in a play, we learn to problem-solve, work together, and think creatively. These skills are super helpful not just in school, but also in life!

Furthermore, arts and culture bring joy and happiness to our school community. Picture a school concert where everyone is singing and clapping along, or an art show where we admire other’s masterpieces. These moments create special memories and bring us closer together as a community.

The arts can inspire us to dream big and follow our passions. Maybe after seeing a beautiful ballet performance, you decide you want to become a dancer. Or perhaps after reading an amazing book, you’re inspired to become a writer. The arts open doors to endless possibilities for students and adults alike.

Arts and culture are like the colorful threads that weave through the fabric of our school experience. They help us express ourselves, learn about the world, develop important skills, and create joyful memories. So, let’s celebrate and embrace the arts in our schools—they make our days brighter and our hearts fuller!

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Adding a Pet

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Get a pet to provide a stress free work environment.

 

Adding a pet to your family is a decision that extends beyond the joy of having a furry friend. The benefits are multifaceted, contributing to the overall well-being and dynamics of your household. Here are the top three reasons why having a pet can be a transformative and rewarding experience for your family.

Unconditional Love and Companionship

One of the most profound reasons to welcome a pet into your family is the unconditional love they offer. Pets, whether dogs, cats, or smaller critters, form deep emotional bonds with their human family members. Their loyalty and affectionate nature create a unique connection that can be a source of comfort and support. The simple joy of coming home to a wagging tail or a purring cat creates a warm and loving atmosphere. Pets foster a sense of belonging and camaraderie within the family.

Promoting Physical and Mental Health

The presence of a pet in the family has been linked to various health benefits for both adults and children. Regular physical activity is a natural outcome of pet ownership, as daily walks and playtime become part of the routine. This contributes to improved cardiovascular health, reduced stress levels, and a more active lifestyle. Moreover, interacting with pets has been shown to lower blood pressure and release endorphins, promoting a positive mood. For children, growing up with pets can instill a sense of responsibility and compassion, enhancing their social and emotional development.

Strengthening Family Bonds and Responsibility

The shared responsibility of caring for a pet fosters teamwork within the family. From feeding and grooming to playtime, each family member plays a role in the well-being of the furry family member. This shared responsibility strengthens communication, cooperation, and a sense of unity. Children, in particular, learn valuable life skills such as empathy, patience, and commitment through their interactions with pets. The shared experiences of caring for a pet create traditions that contribute to a sense of family identity and connection.

Bonus Tip: Tailoring to Your Family’s Lifestyle

When choosing a pet, consider your family’s lifestyle, living space, and preferences. Different pets have varying needs and temperaments, so selecting one that aligns with your family’s dynamics ensures a harmonious and enjoyable relationship.

The decision to have a pet is not just about introducing a new member to the family; it’s about embracing a lifestyle that nurtures love, health, and unity. The unconditional companionship, health benefits, and strengthening of family bonds make having a pet a rewarding and enriching experience. Whether it’s a playful pup, a graceful feline, or a small, scaly friend, the presence of a pet can bring immeasurable joy and positive energy to your family’s daily life.

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